Hurtful Healing

"I stand in the distance,
I view from afar,
Should I offer some assistance,
Should it matter who you are,
But in the name of understanding now,
Our problems should be shared."

-Confide In Me, Kylie Minogue-

If you are living your life to the full, by celebrating the highs and healing through the tough times, then the statement in the image above should ring true with you every year when you look back on your life two years back from that day.

Do me a favour, when you finish reading this sentence, please read the words in the image again below and hopefully you will be on track with me in terms of my perspective on this blog.

The words in the image are all strong and descriptive * which were used to possibly describe your life in the last 12-24 months. They are uplifting words except for 'HURTFUL,' but such is life. It is what you do with the hurt that truly matters. Hold onto it for too long and the mental weight of the hurt could almost start to feel like a physical weight on your mind and your shoulders after a while.

Give the hurtful situation a POWERFUL push away from you by talking it out and letting anger temporarily control your words. Unfortunately we don't always have the chance to speak to those who have hurt us, but a true impartial counsellor or trusted friend can stand in whilst you get it all off your chest and talk it out. If you hurt yourself with your own actions, or lack thereof, then it is the same situation. Talk yourself through how and why this happened.

When your anger subsides, and it must, then think it through as now it is time for you to be ACCEPTING the hurtful situation. Accepting blame (the blame game) doesn't benefit anyone, regardless of how obvious it may seem as to who instigated the hurt. A "plan of attack" was in the angry and hurtful earlier stage, not now, let it go.

You need to move forward and sometimes that means ALTERING the way things are done or how things are said to yourself (internal dialogue) or how they are communicated to those around you.

Change is good. If something is preventing you from accepting what had transpired, then you need to dig a little deeper for clarification so that you can move forward.

The next stage is MOLDING that hurtful situation into something that you can use and ultimately learn from. This is not that easy if you have experienced this hurt from the actions or words that have been thrown at you by another person.

Fighting fire with fire prolongs the hurt and it burns more people.

There is strength in silence. Their action towards you doesn't require a reaction from you.  But later it will require action on your part, a healing action.

-What information was at hand when that hurtful situation happened to you? Was it ignorance towards an issue another person refused to accept, they refused to listen to you and they may have done something to hurt you?
-Was it poor training at work or was it your own fear that caused this hurtful action towards yourself or others?

Ask yourself how can you make your personal and work life an INFORMATIVE environment where everyone has a chance to voice their concerns in order to stop others from getting hurt by this hurtful situation?

Be THOUGHTFUL of your actions and the words that you choose to use, you do have choices, towards those around you wherever you are. Realistically speaking, watching your words and actions doesn't mean that you are constantly on high alert and that every word spoken must be extremely politically correct and monotonous.

HAPPINESS is working (unfortunately our personal lives often require as much, if not more, work as the job that pays us. Your duty is to care...for you) for the best result, actions speak louder than simply hoping for the best. Although saying that...my thoughts and my heart go out to those of you who have loved ones who are currently experiencing serious illness and/or chronic pain. You may "feel useless" in regards to you not being able to help them to heal from what is physically hurting them, but please keep hoping for the best. You being there for them is better than them going through this alone. You are important and you are useful.

Take people seriously, but try to laugh together as much as possible. Please be kind or be quiet.

King M. Rakic
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